Getting chosen to be a bridesmaid is a great honor that comes with great responsibilities, both financially and emotionally. However, almost every bride that I meet is frantically worrying about her bridesmaids dresses, and what her bridesmaids will say.
Everyone worries about which style looks best on every bridesmaid, what's the most flattering color, and the cheapest price that the dresses can be found at.
The truth is that the bride shouldn't have to worry about what her bridesmaids might negatively think or say. This may sound a little bride-zilla-ish, but it's her wedding day. The bridesmaids will all have their wedding days, and will want their wedding to look a certain way too. Though the bride shouldn't completely disregard her girl's opinions, the bridesmaids shouldn't argue with every choice the bride makes.
When you say yes to being a bridesmaid, you say yes to throwing the showers and parties for the bride, consoling her when that crazy relative tries to ruin an event, and yes, paying for the ridiculous bridesmaid dress that she's picked out, and the one that she loves.
Top 10 Advice on finding the DRESS!
- Number One Rule: Be open minded! What you think reminds you of your grandmother's dress on the hanger, may in fact be the dress of your dreams.
- Bring someone that knows your style better than their own. I'm sure the groom doesn't want to see you in something that your bestfriend would wear on her wedding day
- DON'T PURCHASE YOUR DRESS ONLINE! You miss out on the whole experience.
- Don't worry what the groom will think. If he loves you, he will love what you pick.
- Have fun! Remember that you have been dreaming of this day since you were five. Don't let the decision put a cloud over your head
- If you hate the little bow on the dress, ask the consultant if you can order it without.it. Chances are you can. Keep in mind (contrary to what the magazines always say) there might be a charge for it. It won't lower the cost of the dress.
- Price vs. Love: If you love the dress, GO FOR IT! Don't settle for less on what your wearing for your big day. You can always take some of the budget from the centerpieces and so on. No one will know and we won't tell.
- Research designers online and make a scrap book of styles that you like. Do keep in mind, that it may all change when you start trying on.
- Save the group shopping for the mall. This should be a personal experience that you should only share with one or two.
- When you find it, you find it. Don't second guess yourself or you will pick your second favorite.